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What is bisexuality?

Being bisexual means you are romantically and sexually attracted to people of the opposite sex and people of the same sex. As you grow up you become more aware of your sexuality and you might find that you fancy boys and girls, perhaps you have always felt this way, or it may be something new.

Being bisexual does not mean that you have to like boys and girls equally, or that you have to go out with both. Also, your sexuality can change over time, so you might find you sometimes prefer the same or the opposite sex. 

Is it normal?

Growing up bisexual is not always easy and you might be feeling worried about your sexual orientation. Being bisexual is completely normal and you have the right to be who you are and have relationships with whoever you like. Remember, it is your sexuality and it is up to you how you define it.

What if people treat me differently?

Sometimes people discriminate against bisexual people. This means that they may be unkind or have ideas about you that are wrong. For example, some people think that bisexual people are confused about whether they are gay or straight or that they are being ‘greedy’ by liking boys and girls. This kind of discrimination is homophobic and you can get help with this.

Who can I talk to?

Some people find that joining a group for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender young people really helps. This will give you the opportunity to meet other bisexual young people who will probably understand any worries or problems you might be having. There will also be qualified youth workers you can talk to who can help you deal with a range of issues like coming out, coping with bullies and safer sex. You can also talk to a Talksafe Counsellor or Peer Mentor.

You can find a list of youth groups here.

Links

NHS Choices: Am I gay, lesbian or bisexual?

Queer Youth Network

Young People's UK Actionline

Last review: 18/05/11 - Next review: 18/05/13