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What is sexuality?

• Sexuality is the word used to describe who you are attracted to.
• Sometimes, who you are attracted to will change over time.
• What’s important is that you feel free to fancy whoever you like and that you feel comfortable with your sexual identity, whether you’re heterosexual, gay, lesbian or bisexual.

What is same sex attraction?

• You may find you are attracted to someone of the same sex, or that you have a crush on them.
• This could mean that you are gay or lesbian or bisexual. 
• Or, your feelings may change and you may become more attracted to the opposite sex, or even both sexes.
• Your sexuality can change - in fact, who you are attracted to is not really something you can choose or control.

Why am I worried about my sexuality?

• Sexuality is one of the things people have the most worries and concerns about.
• You may feel confused about which sexuality you are or you may be worried about how people will treat you if you’re gay, lesbian or bisexual.
• It may help to talk things through with someone.

I’m being bullied

• If you are being bullied because of your sexuality you can find out how to get help.

If you have a question or you are unsure about anything then ask a Talksafe Counsellor or Peer Mentor.


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  • Lesbian

    Ami, Getting crushes on friends is always a touchy subject, it's really a delicate area, and there's never going to be a definite answer I'm afraid. However, often you can feel your way around your relationship :) If you've already been getting vibes of some sexual questioning on her end, then perhaps the best option is to be honest, if she's really your best friend, she should either tell you she's actually not straight, or not interested, Or (hopefully!) she'll confirm your suspicions and you two can talk about what the next step is. :) All the best, and Good luck with your friend! Ben/Bella

    Ben/Bella, 07/11/2015 02:00:51
  • Lesbian

    I really like my best friend and have a crush on her and I don't think she's completely straight. Should I just tell her or just leave it as friends.

    Ami, 30/10/2015 20:53:27

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