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What is coming out?

Coming out is when someone who is gay, lesbian, or bisexual tells the people around them about their sexuality. It can be scary, but it also means you can be honest about how you feel and not keep part of your life hidden.

I think I’m gay, what happens next?

One of the first steps towards coming out is admitting to yourself that you are gay, lesbian or bisexual. This can be hard, maybe you have been brought up to think being gay, lesbian or bisexual is wrong, or you might be worried about being teased or bullied.

Who to tell?

The next step in coming out is to tell someone you trust and who you think will be supportive and understanding. It will help if they can keep a secret, as you may not want to tell other people about your sexuality before you are comfortable and confident with it yourself. You could talk to a close friend, relative or a trusted adult such as a teacher or youth worker. You can also talk to a Talksafe Counsellor or Peer Mentor. 

Will it change things?

Hopefully coming out will change things for the better as an important part of your life won’t be a secret any more. Many people feel relieved that they can be open and honest about their sexuality.

What is homophobia?

Homophobia is when people treat gay, lesbian or bisexual people differently or unkindly. Homophobia can be very upsetting and scary and it is important to get support if it happens to you. You can get support here.

What if I am confused about my sexuality?

If you are not sure about your sexuality there is no rush to make your mind up or tell people. Coming out is a very individual thing and it is important to do it in your own way and in your own time.

Where else can I get support?

Here are some other sites that can help:

YGM website: Coming Out

Lesbian Life - Coming Out Advice

Queer Youth Network

Links

NHS Choices: Am I gay, lesbian or bisexual?

NHS Choices: Coming out for transgender people

Last review: 19/05/11 - Next review: 19/05/13